tuluum's Diaryland Diary

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R-E-S-P-E-C-T

I was really glad to get Jonathan's words of support in my diary today, with regards to my comments on my previous relationship and where I am looking to go, when it comes to healthy relationships, in the future. Thanks hun. *hug*

I can't state enough how important respect is to me. Respect to me means taking your partner's cares, fears, likes and dislikes into consideration at all times. Realizing that when it comes to what inflicts pain, whether or not you understand it or agree with it matters not, what matters is that you love this person and that by hook or by crook, as a result of that love, you will not do something, KNOWINGLY, that causes them pain. I don't know why people seem to have a hard time with this though.

It's like the kosher jokes that I bitched about earlier, or other jokes that go right to what someone knows I care about, or anything else, water fights, having things thrown at me. Things that remind me of emotional or physical violence, I'm very triggered by. Triggering, as you may or may not know, is not a good thing for those with histories of any kind of instability.

Yet, despite the fact that I try to tell this to certain people,

yet despite the fact that I don't think I need to get into the hows or the whens or the whys,

yet despite the fact that I have said stop, this hurts me, it upsets me. Please stop. It's enough. Not from you too. Despite all this, it continues.

That's not good.

That's dangerous to me.

That to me is disrespect, I'm trying to be patient, but I can't put up with it indefinitely.

So, please, if you care for someone, and they ask you to please, not do something that you see causes them great upset, make the effort, ok. Cos you may just end up losing them, and is it really worth losing someone you care about because you just felt you had to force something on them "one more time"?

when a person who loves us speaks to us honestly from their heart and is willing to extend grace to us, we should respect the grace they offer and make every effort to show our love by taking their words seriously and acting upon them

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I'm so confused right now, maybe some CLIX would help...

Current Clix Ranking: 18 | Previous Clix Ranking: 20

7:42 p.m. - Sunday, Sept. 22, 2002

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